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Have things come to a crisis crunch point where all you can do is shake, buzz out, and barely hold your head up for
the aching neck pains and throbbing headaches? You have entered the major stress zone; in fact, you have peaked and
you're in need of some major chilling out and de-stressing before you harm your body any further. If every single
thing you do and experience has now become too hard, burdensome, tiring, and fear-inducing, do yourself the favor
of allowing yourself to relax.
- Choose a time in your day when you can truly relax and be uninhibited. This may be after
you come home from work or school, where stressful events have taken their toll on you. It is usually most
helpful to try and unwind at the point where you are coming down from the highest stress, as this usually
occurs where you can do little about it (such as in the middle of a meeting when you're being torn to
strips, or when a teacher is yelling at you for not doing something right etc.)
- Run yourself a hot bath with lots of scented oils and bubble bath. Relax in this bath for about 10 - 20 minutes. Avoid being in it too
long as it gets cold (unpleasant) and energy-sapping (something you do not need right now). Just long
enough to refresh and restore a small amount of energy to get back to your own head space.
- Find your own space and darken it. Light it with gentle lamplight or candles, whichever is preferred. If
you're a worrying type, prefer the light so that you don't have to worry about burning anything. Put on some
soothing music and lie back on a comfortable bed, lounge, floor, etc. Relax doing this as long as you want to
or until you feel that is enough.
- Give yourself a massage. Self massage is very effective at reducing the pain from
muscles that tighten when stressed. Ask someone to give you one if you feel you cannot do this effectively
- Clear your mind.If there are stressing thoughts pestering you even in your quite moments give yourself a
break from them even if just a minute or two. Do this by focusing on some very narrowly. Form a picture, or a
sound, or a smell in your mind. Something simple, like a circle, trace the edge or the circle with your eye,
time the motion with your breathing. If you find your self still thinking stressful thoughts resolve the image
further with more detail and focus, let it consume your mind. Once your heart rate and temp have lowered it
should be easier to stay calm.
- Do something proactive. Is this situation arising a lot? Get out paper and pen and write down your
feelings. Try to identify what is triggering each feeling. If you feel up to it, write down ways that you think
will help alleviate the triggers.
- Seek help. Do not let things get to such a bad state that you find yourself stressing deeply regularly. This is a sign
that something is desperately wrong and you need to react. See a health professional to debrief and to find
some constructive ways to deal with your problems.
- Make sure that you will not be disturbed when you are "relaxing". If you are feeling particularly
frustrated and stressed, then try to relax and avoid interruptions, these will only make you more
- Avoid thinking a lot its not good while relaxing
Things You'll Need
- Bubble bath
- Scented bath oils
- Soothing music
- Quiet place
- Scented candles or lamp with oil burner ring and essential oil
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